Authors tend to be introspective people. After all, we spend an ungodly amount of time uncovering the inner workings of our characters down to the point that we know what will break them – and then we do, often with gleeful abandon.
This is what makes great storytelling. However, like most people, we still stubbornly refuse to master that little voice that keeps telling us that we aren’t good enough, aren’t worthy, or don’t deserve to succeed. Today, friend and fellow author James Thompson is with us to talk about how we can deal with that niggling little voice.
The Inner jerkface and you: How to deal with your inner critic
Just who is this inner jerkface?
It’s our inner critic on steroids. It’s the little voice that knows what we’re afraid of. Knows the anxieties plague us on a daily basis. It’s the guy that pumps adrenaline into our bloodstream at night, so we can lie awake and worry.
Our Inner Jerkface, or whatever you want to call it, comes into our life at the most inopportune moments.
Here’s the really scary part. The Inner Jerkface speaks in a rational, logical sounding voice. Even though it’s telling you irrational, illogical things. The lower we feel, the more depressed we feel, the more this voice makes sense to us.
“You’ll never be as good as your successful friend.”
“You are a fraud.”
“You are failing your family.”
I could go on and on.
Like you, I hear this voice on the daily. Even when things are going great, this voice will still be there, trying to make us shut down and curl into a ball.
Fortunately, we have another voice we can listen to. Paying attention to this particular voice can counter the Inner Jerkface.
I’m talking about the voice of our optimism.
I can hear the eye rolling now.
Optimism gets a bad rap, oddly enough. People associate optimism to thinking life will be sunshine, lollipops, rainbows, and kittens.
Optimism is seeing the problems we have, and telling ourselves to keep going. That things will get better.
When things look bleak we can either listen to the Jerk, or we can listen to the voice that tells us this.
“Your friend is very successful, and that’s awesome. That success is motivating.”
“Frauds only look like they’re working this hard. I know you’re putting in the hours on this.”
“I know this is difficult right now. I also know you’ve got great support and your wife and kids love you. You can do this. ”
The Inner Jerkface will always be with you. So will the voice of your optimism.
You’re always going to have anxiety, no shame in that. It’s part and parcel of the human condition. So, too, is realizing that somethings are more important than our fear. Finding out that you have that kind of courage is a huge deal.
Don’t worry if you haven’t found your courage yet. You will.
About today’s guest:
James Thompson lives in Sandy, UT. He loves a good story wherever he finds it. Primarily he loves the myths and legends of every culture in the world. He also loves reading DnD, Star Wars, GURPs, White Wolf, and other RPG source books. He even participates in role playing games when he finds folks crazy enough to let him play. When he isn’t reading or writing, he is a stay at home father, helping to raise twin boys who are growing up too fast. He is also a blade and exotic weapon enthusiast. Lineage is his first published book. He is currently working on the sequel to Lineage, and other projects.
James’s Book, Lineage
This is the story of Connor Murray, a young hooligan from England who finds out that he is a direct descendant of the Legendary King Arthur. He is taken to a school where other lineal descendants of the Court of Camelot gather to be taught by the progeny of Merlin. Lineage brings the names of the Knights of the Round Table from the dust of the old tales and gives them new life. Most importantly, it brings back the ideals of Arthur’s Camelot: that might is not right and mercy is not weakness.
Lineage is available on Amazon.